Building Your Parenting Tool Box
Being a great parent isn’t something that you usually get much appreciation for! As a parent of a teen and a 21 year old, I can say that having a great tool box has made parenting more rewarding. I know I have done my best and can continue to be encouraging as my kids move into adulthood.
Would you like to improve your performance as a parent? Here are a few tips from my article:
20 TOOLS FOR BUILDING EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
- Instead of saying what you don’t want, politely request the behavior you DO desire.
- Take time for training! Teach the skills needed to get the behavior you desire–remember to do this one step at a time.
- Try an “I statement” to express your feelings in a positive way.
- Use your sense of humor–maybe a laugh would break the tension!
- Utilize What, Why and How questions that avoid blame and shame.
- Redirect the child’s NEED to a different, more acceptable activity.
- Structure reasonable, respectful, and related logical consequences with the child BEFORE the misbehavior occurs, if possible.
- Plan ahead. Hold a family meeting.
For a complete list of tips, read my special report:
20 Tips For Building Effective Relationships with Kids
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May 13, 2008
Catch Them Doing It Right: Appreciations Set The Tone.
One of the things I love about teaching families to have Family Meetings is Appreciations. Appreciations at the beginning of any meeting, set a tone of respect and friendliness. Families spend a lot of time talking about kid’s chores and responsibilities. It is easy to fall into the trap of only noticing and commenting on what isn’t getting done. If you would like to increase cooperation in your family try this:
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May 6, 2008
Seeing Through Your Child’s Eyes
Do you know any kids (or adults) who can never seem to get enough attention? Attention seeking behavior is usually a result of confusion about how to fit in, how to be important. Sometimes kids get the mistaken idea that they only “count” when they are being noticed or served. When left alone, they feel left out or invisible.
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May 2, 2008
Make Sure the Message of Love Gets Through To Your Teen!
Do you remember being a teenager? What things were
most important to you? Did you care about the things
your parents valued?
Parenting teens can be a fun and memorable part of
raising kids. So many parents and teens that I meet
are just not having a good time with each other.
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